It has taken me years and years of trying to be good by not saying no, to finally realize that I have only been unfair to myself and probably failed to love myself first.
A family member, friend, business partner, boy/girlfriend, husband/wife, boss or just someone random is asking for a “favour” you are sure you don’t want to give, but you simply can’t say NO!
You know too well your heart is not in it but you will do it anyway. Because you feel or think saying no is being selfish, will make you look too bad, you will be hurting them and most importantly you don’t want to lose them.
So you end up doing things you actually needed to say no to, in the hope of being viewed as unselfish, good and being liked.
Society has a way of sanitizing its evils, and condemning us when we say no is just but one.
“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.” — Lori Deschene [Read more…]